72 days and counting.....
I turn 30 in a little more than 2 months and I am a virgin!
I am not sure if this is something to scream about, talk about, cry about or just blog about. I chose the last one - guess that is why I am here.
Growing up in Nigeria as a teen in the 90's, the whole idea of S-E-X was really weird - it was that act that as girls, we knew that everyone was doing it but no one was talking about it. At least in my circles, they weren't. You had a boyfriend (or you were just being toasted) and everyone assumed that you were doing it. "ah, she never tear? it's a lie"... that phrase always sounded so crass to me but believe me, I heard it all the time and it was what it was.
Bear with me as I go down memory lane before I bring you back to my life now as a sex-less freak of nature.
I went to an all-girls boarding school. I would say that 90% of the time (maybe more, maybe less) girls that went to schools like mine did come out as vees (i'll use this variation of the word every now and then) So, we would graduate somewhere between the age of 16-19 and we would be pure (for all intents and purposes)....then, we discovered boys! in the uni-scene. I know I did...but for some reason, I didn't want to have sex with boys - I just wanted to talk to them. Besides, I had already decided to follow Jesus and I wasn't trying to take my a$$ to hell.
Well, at least, that's how it started out. By the way, I never quite understood how some of my friends would criticize you for listening to secular music (being born-again and all) but would have sex every chance they got. Anyhoo, I started out not wanting to have sex because of my faith but later down the road, it just became something important to me. something special. something that was my own. it is something.
So! now you ask, how can you not have sex? don't you ever feel the urge? what is wrong with you?.... or if you are not asking or thinking, I might as well put these words in your mouth as I have heard them plenty of times. My answer is you can't miss or really want something that you have never had. I have never had sex so it is never an issue. I have had boyfriends - not many - but they came to accept this. At least those that stayed did. The others just dumped me.... but it's all gravy. I am fine. Really, I am fine.....
Now, back to my virgin status..... I never tear. At least from a phallo-vaginal standpoint - I am pretty sure the specula and tampons broke sumn. And I am sure that I am not the only one. So, I am blogging about this.....more to come
